Mar 27 2009
How to deal with infertility frustrations?
Ivy asked:
It makes me so angry and hurt to see a mother have a baby and not take care of them, or not get basic supplies for their child before they are born, or even…kill their child. What is a good way to deal with infertility frustrations? I have always felt this way about mothers who seem to not care about their kids. But now it is WAY worse. I do not have a uterus, but I do have a heart.
Lorraine
It makes me so angry and hurt to see a mother have a baby and not take care of them, or not get basic supplies for their child before they are born, or even…kill their child. What is a good way to deal with infertility frustrations? I have always felt this way about mothers who seem to not care about their kids. But now it is WAY worse. I do not have a uterus, but I do have a heart.
Lorraine
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i completely understand how you feel. the same week i found out i have PCOS, and hit the 1 year mark for ttc my aunt announced she was pregnant. my best friend announces she was pregnant “and it was such a surprise!” and 4 girls i was friends w/ in high school gave birth.
the only way i have gotten through w/ this is talking to my aunt, and my faith. my aunt cant have kids; and has been such a big support. i know that God has a plan for every one of us, and i hope that my time will be soon.
I completely and totally understand how you feel. And i’m stil trying to figure out how to cope.
One way is to count your blessings. Whenever I get upset I start thinking of all the good things in my life. My husband, my puppy, my neices and nephews, my job, my new home. I think of those things and I start to smile. And remember that my blessing of child will come when the time is right.
I also find it helps to talk to other people who are going through the same thing as you. Talking to people who have children, doesn’t really help becuase they don’t know the hurt and pain that you feel.
Coping isn’t easy, but you have to try.
Baby dust to you
Honestly, I used to bottle the frustration until it literally consumed me. I couldn’t leave my house because seeing pregnant women made me hurt so bad emotionally and physically. Then I found a support group for women struggling with infertility and it had been amazing. I can express myself and they understand how I feel and don’t look at me as though I am being selfish or anything. And its nice to have someone I can talk to who has been through similar experiences. I highly recommend finding one in your area. It can definitely be a life saver.