Feb 13 2007
Why do so many questions start off with the parents story of infertility?
I notice often, when people looking into adoption or who have adopted, or adoptees speaking of their adoptive parents or references to people who have adopted, the story is often told of their struggle to have children on their own.
Why is this? Why is it about their infertility?
That tells me 1) they wouldn’t have chosen adoption if they had children on their own
2) they didn’t look into adoption for the benefit of the child
3) they’re not looking at it from the adoptees point of view or else they wouldn’t be introducing themselves as people who have struggled with infertility.
Does anybody else see the irony in this? Does it bother anyone else? Do you think adoption will ever be about the child?
*Disclaimer*
( i am not meaning “all” adoptions are like this, some aren’t, for the ones that are, that is what I’d like to discuss. I realize that there are some people who looked into foster care adoption to generally help a child, I realize not all ap’s are infertile. This question is directed to those using infertility as a crutch to justify adoption )
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